Everyone
needs to be loved and being in love is one of the most amazing wonders and acts
of divine providence wrought upon humanity by its creator. This is why I write
this article today. It is my letter to you and my hope is that you may discover
a truth that can direct your life and understand how people are.
This
article is an excerpts from Bishop T.D Jakes’ book “Destiny: Step into YourPurpose” with emphasis on Chapter 4. Therefore, the definitions you will see
here are not the dictionary type per se but purely from the book. There are
three people groups that you will find in life. Each group has a role to play
in your life. As a matter of fact, you belong to one of the groups. Out of the
three groups, the most important people you need in your life will emerge and
it will serve you well to know the role of the other groups and how far they
can go with you in the long haul. These are the groups:
1. CONFIDANTS
Confidants are people
who love you unconditionally. They are into you. They have your back whether
you’re up or down. They are with you in the long haul. If you get in trouble
they won’t abandon you. They are with you to make sure you reach your Destiny. They
are not afraid to tell you when you’re wrong and affirm you when you are right.
Without them you’ll never be who God called you to be.
2. CONSTITUENTS
Constituents are not into you;
rather, they are into what you are for. They are not for you, nor does your
destiny matter to them. But as long as you are for what they are for, they will
walk with you and work with you. But it ends there. Constituents are always looking
for a better deal. They will abandon you to hook up with another person who
better serves their purpose or their need. They were never in your life for
you; they were in your life because they perceived that you and they were for
the same thing. They were with you as long as you were for what they were for. Constituents
will fool you because after you’ve fallen in love with them, they will break
your heart as they abandon you to connect with someone else who is for what
they are for.
3. COMRADES
Comrades are not for
you, nor are they for what you are for. They are against what you are against. They
will team up with you, not so you can reach your destiny, but to fight a common
enemy. They give you support for a time, but that time will only last as long
as the common enemy lasts.
We all fall under these three groups of people
depending on the circumstances we are faced with or how we get involved in the
lives of people. Today however, you can navigate differently and make your life
better and help others reach their Destiny.
